Posts Tagged ‘pattern integrity’

Living Your Genius. Why do we choose to live a half life?

Friday, May 25th, 2012

Living Your Genius. Why do we choose to live a half life?

Genius = latin meaning the spirit of place… the spirit assigned to one at birth.

Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads.” – Erica Jong

 

The genius of the individual lies in their ability to inhabit fully their peculiar and particular spirit as they converse with the world. Genius is something that is itself and no other thing.

Bucky Fuller would say it is our pattern integrity. Every 7 years every cell in our body is renewed, but the pattern that is us, goes on…even, many say, (including me) beyond death..even before birth..

So many times I have worked with people who have spent most of their lives doing work that was not their genius… work that was crafted from a need to prove….or generated from fear…or because their story of how to make money from being a teacher of kids, which was their genius, did not match their want for fame, wealth and glory.

These people are often extremely successful..deeply admired and respected…but they are
impersonating…living a lie….they are not being true to their genius…and this is their heartache…their longing…

…they have become trapped in a success that imprisons them with each and every day…escape is seemingly impossible…

…so they find me…not because they know what is wrong…because they do not…they just know that something is desperately wrong…

…their identities have merged so completely with the life they have crafted…that to step away means to go to an edge that calls them to their more truthful self…

And this edge is frankly terrifying.

Many people ‘soldier’ on…living a half life. This is a tragedy…we have exiled the truth of us to such far away lands that we no longer know how to call them home…

To step into our full genius is a risk. Most of all it is a risk of exposure. Of being found out that the mask you have so carefully crafted for so many years is untrue…and to do this requires courage and vulnerability….the willingness to step into the soft, the broken, the deceptive parts of ourselves…to be ridiculed…humiliated…to start again…to begin…

..yet to not do so is our soul’s death.

Our genius calls us…in our dreams, in our aching, in our illness… It will not let us go.

Either we step fully into our genius, or we wither on the vine of half life.

I have found that when people do become wholehearted in their genius…the crowds cheer…because this is what they most want…to see another do what they fear to do themselves. These are the hero’s that inspire us the most…

My wish is to be cheering for you…as you live your genius. I would love to hear from you as you do this…

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Working ‘with’ not ‘on’ your business. The Pattern Integrity of your business

Monday, December 19th, 2011

Part 3.

Anyone who has been on a team knows that add or subtract one person, and the dynamics of the team changes. Add one more child to a family, the dynamics change. Each team has its pattern integrity. Each relationship between two or more humans has its pattern integrity. Further, each relationship between human and other living things has its pattern integrity. By pattern integrity (see part 1 and 2 of this article) I mean a unique dynamic that is present and holds the integrity of that relationship. If the pattern integrity is not maintained, the relationship breaks down, or breaks up.

At the more complex level, an idea has a pattern integrity. When it is originally born as an idea or impulse, it has an integrity to it, like a seed has a DNA. If we do too much genetic, or in this case, memetic (memes are ideas) modification to the core DNA, we will end up with something very much out of integrity to the original idea/impulse.

This memetic modification happens more often than not. We get seduced by all variations of egoic distractions, like offers for money, fame, and the accouterments of ‘success’. Or by bright shiny objects of various forms. Before we know it, we wake up and our idea is nothing like what we held originally. To hold the pattern integrity of an idea, or a business, or a relationship requires focused effort and attention. Tragically, few people give relationships or ideas this kind of attention consistently.

A business has its own pattern integrity. (I hope you now realise that every dynamic has a pattern integrity…a tree, a spade, a blade of grass, an hour in the day)

Just as in part 2, we tuned into the unique pattern integrity that is you, we are now going to tune into the pattern integrity of your business, or your primary relationships.

In tuning in, it is also important to recognise that each pattern integrity has a beginning, and an end. To honour the pattern integrity of a relationship, we need also to honour that it may be at its natural end. This is dependent on the core DNA of that particular relationship. Endings do not mean failure. They mean endings of the pattern integrity. What is complete is complete. It is the incompletions that cause havoc and emotional/physical stress.

Lets consider an intimate personal relationship. You meet, and whether you like it or not (despite yourself) a dynamic field is already present. Just as two atoms at the quantum level create a field when in approximation of each other, two humans create a field. The integrity of the field is not something you can tamper with. It is a result of everything that has been present to this moment in your life, and everything that has been present in the life of the other. This is what you are tuning into when you tune into the pattern integrity of the relationship. The field can morph with time and changed circumstances, but the core DNA is very consistent. There is a purpose to the dynamic of the relationship that transcends human contamination. When that purpose is done, then so is the relationship. If we really honour the pattern integrity of the relationship, if we approach it with wisdom, then the pattern integrity will inform us as to the nature of the dynamic from moment to moment.

I have been working with a young client who created a project 18 months ago. It was an ambitious project, and from his point of view it failed. When we sit in consideration of this project, he now clearly sees that his original idea was then distorted through giving his power/authority away to people he felt knew better, and/or being seduced by shiny objects, to the point that his original idea looked nothing like its core seed. When he had to pull the pin on the project he suffered tremendous feelings of failure. The work we are now engaged in is to get ALL of the lessons from this experience. In my experience, when people get all of the lessons, they switch from being bitter and disappointed, to being in gratitude. Resentment, vengeance, disappointment, blame, anger..are all residual emotions from unreconciled lessons. The core impulse that this young client had is still resident. In time, and by affording this impulse its respect and honour, he may be able to maintain the pattern integrity of the impulse, and allow it to become expressed in the world in the form for which it was designed.

In my own life, as I use this “tuning in” tool, I listen to the pattern integrity of all of my relationships, with people and with my business. My business has its own dynamic, which is emergent, and therefore ever calling for refining and recrafting. To tune into its expression is a very powerful activity that deserves at least several hours of time a week. (What Michael Gerber from the E-myth talked about as working ‘on’ your business. Here I am suggesting a slight refinement…working ‘with’ your business. Working in partnership with the unique pattern integrity of your business.)

This time of year (late December) is a great time to pause and tune into the pattern integrities of all of our relationships, and with our business, our teams, our families.

To NOT tune to the things that most matter in our life is a tragedy. I urge you to take at least a morning, create a lovely space free from distractions, and tune in…be still, hold the pattern integrity of the dynamic you are tuning in to in front of you in your minds eye, and inquire.

what do you need from me right now to support your fullest expression?
what I am not seeing that you have been working tirelessly to have me see?
what is the truth of this dynamic (write it down, no editing)
what did I do well to support the pattern integrity in 2011?
what do I need to do better?
what would you like to see expressed in 2012?
is there any one thing that I need to do right now to support the fullest expression of the pattern integrity?

I will be taking the time to sit in these questions in reference to my two businesses over the Christmas New Year break. And will do the same with my primary relationships, including the relationship I have with my body. Care to join me?

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You Unique Pattern Integrity

Monday, December 5th, 2011

What is the gap between what you are capable of doing, and what you are doing? What is the fullest expression of your pattern integrity? If we used a scale to measure this, with 10 being fully expressing our pattern integrity, and zero  not expressing it at all, where are you on the scale? The gap describes all of our latent potential. It is the difference between who we really are, and what gets in the way of that.

Let’s begin by describing your pattern integrity. The unique voice that you have. Your own song line that can only be heard in a certain way. If you are visual, describe your pattern integrity in words, and pictures. Give him or her a name. Hold this name as deeply private, not to be shared except with a few very of your closest confidants.

As I mentioned in last weeks blog, my pattern integrity is very tall, very light, very joyous, and very beautiful. She is radiant and loving. If she danced, it would be a waltz. Or classical ballet. The music she would dance to would be the sound of the ocean, a piano, violin, and harp, with the sound of the wind thrown in for good measure. Or a song that called forth beauty and grace. She has great kindness in her, compassion to last lifetimes, and wisdom to know how to be in all situations with dignity. She is also fierce in her love. There is a trustworthiness that is deeper than any ocean. When I think of her everything about me softens, all the hard edges go away. Anxiety disappears, trust is restored, peace is present.

Every day I begin my day with a meditation that invites my connection with her to be present. I feel her through me. She is me. She is the equivalent to the ‘David’ that was already present in the marble block that Michelangelo carved. His job as the artist was to focus on the presence of the unseen but felt ‘David’, trusting that if he removed all of the excess marble, the magnificence of David would be revealed.

I start my day with the invitation and invocation of calling her to be fully me…or me to be fully expressed as her, which is truth.

When she is present I am at a 10 in my expression. For the rest of the day, the task is to notice the gap between her presence and what I am allowing myself to express, which is often far from her presence.

If I happen to catch myself getting wonky, being in fear, anger, frustration, blame, victim….I can call on her to be present. I can breath into her. I call her by name. Or by visual imagery, or by feeling her. This of course takes commitment and practice. I have been ignoring her for decades, so to remember to catch myself when I am far away from her takes conscious choice.

If I am feeling very off centre, or confused, or seeking clear sighted guidance, then I can evoke her presence. Ideally I do this by finding a quiet space, and feeling her presence. I then ask her a direct question, the more specific the better. My personal preference is to write the question down, so I can craft the question to be clear, precise, and directed. Then I write the answer that comes to me, without any form of editing. To not edit is very important. Our ego likes to edit, or argue, or disagree. Once I have written down the answer, if I really want I can invite my ego in for the counter argument. I have learned that the more I trust the answer from her, the more my life moves in harmony with who I really am. The ego has its own agenda, and usually that is based on playing in the lower levels of a 2 or a 3 on our scale of 10.

Every person has their own pattern integrity, their own all knowing, all powerful, all wise self. This is available to us all of the time. We see this present in the eyes of a newly born baby. The question is, do we have the willingness and commitment to turn down all the other noise in our life so we can tune into that aspect of self? Most of the time we do not. We stay in the noise.

In Part 3 of this series, we will look at the pattern integrity present in all relationships, animate and inanimate, and how to tune into these. While this all may sound very ‘new agey’ and woo woo, this work is deeply embedded in physics and science. The quantum field, entanglement, morphic resonance…these are other ways to express what we are describing. Anyone who has worked with teams knows that a team has its own unique pattern integrity. Include one more person, or have one person leave, and the pattern integrity of that team changes. We will discuss how to leverage the pattern integrity of teams, relationships, and systems, so that the unique DNA expression is given an opportunity to flourish, or, if needs be, to be adapted.

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The Pattern Integrity that is Uniquely You

Monday, November 28th, 2011

Part 1. Introduction

Tie a knot in a rope and you have a pattern of a knot. If you tie the same knot in any material it will produce the same pattern. The pattern is not dependent on the material…rope, shoe lace, fishing line, cooked noodles. The pattern of the knot is made visible by the medium. A loop in a rope has no pattern integrity because the loop will quickly disappear at the slightest provocation.

Dropping a stone into water produces ripples of waves. Dropping anything of mass into liquid will produce the same ripples, whether that liquid is water, wine, milk, oil… Pattern Integrity.

According to Buckminster Fuller, every human being is a unique pattern integrity, temporarily given shape by flesh, just as the knot was given shape by the rope. All the materials in the cells of your body are completely replaced at least every 7 years, somehow showing up with the same arrangement, colour and function, regardless of whether you ate meat and potatoes or banana’s. Quite amazing really. Who ‘we’ are is not the body. We are, life is…metaphysical, and is expressed in the pattern integrity of the body.

“So what?” you may ask. “So everything”…I say..

Taking this theme of Bucky’s to the next level, there is an integrity in our design, and being. We are a particular and unique ‘knot’. Part of this is beyond our control. I can’t argue with being 5’1”. Or having blue eyes. Being good at maths, bad at spelling, bad at hand eye co-ordination. I could train myself to be better at spelling, but my brain does funny things with letters, so it would be something I would have to work at. Whereas you may find spelling a breeze. Or ball games.

These aspects of our pattern integrity are built into the design. But what about how we express our pattern integrity? Here is where things get interesting.

Everyone not only has a physical pattern integrity, we also have a metaphysical pattern integrity. We have a unique voice that needs to be spoken, a unique essence, a unique self.

Our pattern integrity is archetypal. We all know people who are natural clowns. Or natural gamblers. Or the archetypal mother. The entrepreneur. You can no more remove the ‘clown’ from the person who was born ‘clown’ as you could remove water from the ocean.

To make it more complex, our pattern integrity has multiple archetypes. You may have the clown, the lover and the magical child all embodied within you. Different aspects of self appear at different times. And each aspect has the shadow and the light. We have the clown who makes people happy, and the clown who creates chaos and mayhem, or can be malicious in their clowning.

Our core pattern integrity is pure. It has no contamination. It is the aspect of self that is ageless and timeless. Our other patterns, such as the clown, are more superficial manifestations of this core essence. Our core essence, or core pattern integrity is the quiet, all knowing, all wise aspect of self. And yet at the same time, this essence is individual to us, resonating at a particular frequency, portraying a particular personality.

You know who your core pattern integrity is. Bold statement. But true. She or he has been present from the beginning, and will continue on after our bodies are done. As Bucky said, we are metaphysical. There are many paths to reaching her or him. It is actually quite simple.

In my work with energetic coach Emily, we went through a process for me to access my core essence. Given I am a highly visual person, this process had me open a door, and behind the door I was in a garden. I could have been anywhere. A garden by the sea is what became present to me. When Emily asked me to be present to my core essence, she was there. A giant angelic type being, at least 9-10’ tall, ethereal, radiant, light. And beautiful. Joyous, shining, beautiful. Others experience something completely different, for example, a friend of mine is so clearly a very happy, tail wagging dog. And for others, it is not a visual reference but a feeling or emotive reference.

Interestingly, when people who have spoken to me on the phone meet me in person for the first time, the usual reaction is shock at my height. They always see me as much taller.  And the feedback I most get from people is that I am inspiring, I have light coming from my eyes, from my being. Of course if they meet me when I am far from my pattern integrity, then I am small, and there are no lights..

Our task, as humans, is to stay connected to our pattern integrity as much as we are able. To be essence. Every other form of expression is some form of contamination, some form of static to the signal that is uniquely us. I recall the first Star Wars movies, where Princess Leia was delivering a message in a holographic form via the robot R2D2. Towards the end of the message, the signal was disrupted and her image became static. This is what happens when we lose connection to our pattern integrity. Our essence distorts. People cannot receive us clearly. Or at all. This is how people can go unnoticed/invisible for long periods of time. Or can be so savagely mis-understood. The path from essence to delivery is distorted. We have to look to ourselves, we have to do the inner work to clean the signal delivery.

In all of my years of holding integrity as the essence…I have been vigilant to the times when my signals are off. In plain English, when what I say is not what I do, and who I am is not what is true. When there is an incongruence. Aligning the signal with the essence has been my inner work. It has also been the work I have done with clients. There is tremendous liberation and ease in maintaining our pattern integrity. Unfortunately, we have all become masters at incongruence, at giving off distortions in our signals, for many and various reasons.

Rare are the people and companies who choose with consciousness to live and work through the fullest expression of their pattern integrity. This is not about perfection, but rather the commitment to choosing pattern integrity as a conscious act. The people I know who are on this path are very few. It is not an easy path. We have to be willing to stand in the fire of all that distorts. We have to surround ourselves with people who hold us to our integrity. We have to be able to take the feedback. To listen. To bow in humility. To adjust, modify, and stand up again.

I contend that pattern integrity is humanities greatest yearning. And our deepest absence.

In Part 2, I will look at building a personal relationship with your pattern integrity. Give her or him or it a name. Bring your essence into dialogue. Learn to listen to the clear signals she gives.
In Part 3, I will extend this to the pattern integrity of your business and your relationships to others, for there is a unique essence to all dynamics and relationships in Universe. We can learn to tune in, to listen to the pattern integrity of our business, of our marriage, of our relationship with our children, with the tree’s, with Earth. All available to us…if we but listen. (see the previous two articles in tunability, and listening)

I would love to hear from you your experience of being aligned with your pattern integrity, what happens when you are?

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