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Unleashing true brilliance in an organisation

Monday, April 16th, 2012



Look at any organisation, team, family unit or business, and you will certainly find the following.

Interpersonal conflict
Lack of clarity of purpose, direction, project parameters etc
Blame of others or the system
Miscommunication
Conflicting worldviews, perspectives and cultures

The amount of energy that is lost to these communication and people issues is immense. Loss in time, energy, effort, inefficiency, focus.  At a rough guess, say a 40% loss of available energy for every person involved. Often higher.

As a simple exercise, think of what is consuming your mental and emotional energy right now? Is it creativity, innovation, problem solving, design, relationship building….all desired…or is it worrying about Sue or Paul, or the boss, or why people will or won’t, can or can’t, or why didn’t she do this, deliver that, understand this, be on time with, why the leadership says this and does that….? And countless other issues that we now see as the norm.

What is the cost of a 40% loss due to poor interpersonal, communication and leadership skills? In pure dollar terms, every opportunity you have to make $100 is reduced to $60. That hurts. But that doesn’t even take into account the stress, sleepless nights and endless conversations to try to reach resolution…

There is a cost that is less obvious but very critical. The cost of brilliance.

If we have a higher competency in our conscious communication and leadership tools, reducing significantly the interpersonal conflicts and lack of clear communication, this allows another element to enter the fray. Something even more powerful. When clean communication is present, more intelligence is able to be expressed. Not just because the garbage noise has been reduced.

But because when two or more people sit with each other in a clean space, the field of access is opened in a transpersonal way. (Beyond people)

This is the basis of collective intelligence and synergy. The space between atoms, particles, objects, ideas, people…is available when the friction is reduced. Here lies genius, innovation…breathtaking brilliance…the kind of outcomes most organisations and innovative entrepreneurs aspire to.

Take your $100 and get $1000 or more.

Like…? What’s not to like.

Invest in conscious communication and leadership tools if you aspire to this type of  true brilliance. Do the math, it will end up being a wise investment.

Caveat; the success of any intervention depends on the interior condition and intelligence of the intervener.

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The metaphor of Easter, on finding forgiveness and relinquishing justice

Tuesday, April 10th, 2012

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As we grow up and become fully adult, which takes a lifetime or more, one of the last areas we need to release is our relationship to justice.

In our human life, much is going to be experienced as unfair. Bad things happen to really good people, to innocents..This is the way of it. It feels wrong. It hurts. Its confusing. It can’t be explained using our rational mind.

In the Christian text, as in many other spiritual texts, “Justice is mine” sayeth the Lord. We are advised that justice lives in the realm of the divine. The Lord of Karma, or God the Father or whatever Universal field you ascribe to, is responsible for ensuring justice prevails. Divine justice is rarely dispensed on our time cycle, and in the way we would like it. Wise, methinks, for if humans were really allowed to decide exactly what is justified, all of the time, and according to our schedule, we would have a very nasty place to live. Even now, with our ‘justice system” evil so often prevails at the level of human existence. Justice is often awarded to the side with the biggest bank account to hire the brightest lawyers, or to the person with the most overt or covert influence.

But to be at peace with divine justice is not an easy progression in our development. There is a lot of letting go, acceptance, forgiveness. It requires quite an evolved human being.

The Dalai Lama was questioned… “Why didn’t you fight back against the Chinese?” The Dalai Lama looked down, swung his feet just a bit, then looked back up at us and said with a gentle smile, “Well, war is obsolete, you know ” Then, after a few moments, his face grave, he said, “Of course the mind can rationalize fighting back…but the heart, the heart would never understand. Then you would be divided in yourself, the heart and the mind, and the war would be inside you.”

The Christian story of Easter provides a powerful metaphor for our human experience around justice. It also carries a strong archetypal pattern of our pathway to finding peace with divine justice. This pathway, similar to the hero’s journey, has several critical components. They all need to be walked, to be lived, if we are to really find our peace with divine justice. There are no shortcuts.

It starts when Jesus goes into the garden of Gethsemane after the last supper.

1. Jesus beseeches God to release him from this task.

You are not going to want to do what it is you have to do. When you appeal to the heavens for help, you will hear nothing. Silence. Plus there is no escape route. You feel trapped.

2. Jesus was betrayed by one of the 12 apostles, Judas Iscariot, for 30 pieces of silver.

Your friends will betray you. Or some force will betray you. This will really sting, and feel very unjust.

3. Jesus accepts his fate after repeated appeals.

You did make an agreement, and like it or not, you do accept it. Some peace is attained.

4. Pontius Pilate tells Jesus that he has the power to let him go. He appeals to Jesus to say something so he can be released. Jesus says nothing…he has made an agreement. Jesus resists the temptation to deny his path. The easy out (sell out) is ignored.

You will be tempted. It will require staying true to your self. Probably against all odds. This is an extreme test. If you fail, you go back into the cycle, and often remain in the cycle for a lifetime.

5. When Jesus is hanging on the cross he feels abandoned. “Why have you forsaken me?”

Abandonment is essential for this archetypal pattern to be released. Feeling completely isolated, alone, forgotten, rejected, unloved…when this sets in deeply, you are moments from release…keep your nerve. The light is coming.

6. Finally, Jesus remembers that justice is not his to give. It is for the Divine to give. He finds forgiveness and is released.

You will find ultimate surrender and peace. Not always by dying physically, but by dying to your attachment to righteousness.

The metaphor of the Christian Easter may be applied no matter who your God, or what your religion. The journey of justice transcends dogma.

Knowing the journey, and the steps on the journey may provide solace to you. In my own recent life I have felt the pain of the 5th step so many times. Moving from step 5 into step 6 has been one of my hardest lessons.

I would love to hear your experience on this path, or the places that test you the most.

This article is inspired by the work of Caroline Myss

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The most powerful moment

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

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Liminal

Thursday, March 29th, 2012

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What are you devoted to?

Tuesday, March 27th, 2012


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Devote late 16th cent. (in the sense [dedicate formally, consecrate] ): from Latin devot- ‘consecrated,’ from the verb devovere, from de- ‘formally’ + vovere ‘to vow.’

Devotion invites a vow. Vows are more high frequency than a promise. Vows are solemn promises.  A vow is an archetype. To make a vow is to place yourself on the alter of your life as an offering. It brings in the sacred. Like it or not.

To break a vow is to break self into pieces, to fragment. There has to be a transformation and metamorphosis.

Look at your life and you will see what you have been devoted to.

 

My devotions…

My health…this has been a cornerstone of my existence. My life is built around the devotion to health of mind body and spirit. Great sleep, and enough sleep…a good bed, beautiful sheets (high thread count cotton), the right pillow (white goose down..love love),

The evening prayer and reading from my large collection of poetry of the mystics. Hafiz, Kabir, Rumi. Beauty and mysticism the fertilization of my dreams.

Then a gratitude prayer as I slip into sleep….thank you thank you thank you..

And in the morning…a ritual of light…the abundance of light streaming into my being…and the remembering of my true nature and her radiance.

Being up with the sun, outdoors, in nature as I express myself through my exercise. Running or swimming on alternate days. Usually with friends..camaraderie of shared experience.

Healthy vital food, and some balance of chocolate. Dark, Lindt chili, mostly.

Staying in constant conversation with my body/energy/spirit.

Journaling…going back to my early years.

My friends around the world…keeping in touch.

My daughter…that she flourishes in her life.

My clients…that they flourish in their life.

My business….that it flourishes…

Writing…that I get out of the way and allow…

Beauty and truth….integrity in all things

 
The evolution of my own soul/spirit/psyche. This has been a devotion of mine for over 25 years. It is embodied in everything I do.

 

 

What is seeking my devotion?

There is a man out there… seeking my devotion and wanting to be devoted to me…

And there is a little dog…somewhere as well..a little spirit..

Play is asking for my devotion..more play…less work…more laughter and friends and shared moments.

The world is asking for my devotion in a way that is not yet expressed…it is asking me to be more daring, more bold, more courageous...

My community is whispering for me to become devoted…not sure how yet…

 

What are you devoted to…?

 

And what is calling your devotion? Please share…

 

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Know Thy Self. Be true to self. Live Integrity

Monday, March 19th, 2012

 

Know thy Self..inscribed on the Temple of Apollo at Delphi and attributed to various well known Greek sages…..

But why so important to know thy Self?

How true are we to our selves? Seriously?

And what is the true nature of the “I”?

I used to think, before I became a mum, that babies came into the world as a blank canvas, and then we ‘imprinted’ on them their character. How wrong was I. Each child comes into the world so firmly stamped with their own BEINGNESS. Just as each cat or dog or bird has its own character. Our job as parents and teachers is not to alter the uniqueness, but to allow its fullest brilliance to shine. To hold a space for the fullest flourishing of the already present pattern integrity.

But there is the rub. Over the course of our life from infant to young adulthood, our integrity gets tampered with in so many ways.

Most of us have forgotten who we really are. The seed that was born in us is half formed, or buried, or squashed.

And then we get confused…am I this, or that?

 

 

Who am I? Why am I here? And what is my purpose?

Sometimes we don’t pause to ask these questions until we are well into the journey of our life…often this pause is instigated by a crisis…someone dies, we lose our job, get a divorce…and then we find a moment to ask how we got here…. why don’t my children know who I am…what is my purpose? And what the %$#&%$!! point?

We then spend then next period of our lives removing the rubbish, the learned behaviours, the acts, the masks, going on an inner archeological dig. “Who am I” is the driving force.  We are searching for our unique pattern integrity.

The deepest nature of our soul is what we are after. This is the level of truth to which I speak. It will also be the aspect of self that will be challenged the most by our needs and desires of our more surface, egoic selves.

And this is where Integrity is found. It is our wholeness…us as Universe. Complete.

 

Authenticity is not some new age word easily used in self help classrooms.….it is big hard work…it takes the most rigorous self awareness plus mountains of courage…the courage to say yes to our soul, and no to our temptation.

And we will be tempted…again and again…and we will weaken..again and again. This is the human journey.

This is why we so adore and admire people who say yes to their soul and no to their lesser  egoic desires and needs…the Nelson Mandella’s, Gandhi’s, Buckminster Fuller’s. Positive Deviants all. Because they remind us of what we are longing for….and what we care capable of. To live in our fullest expression of integrity.

The fullest, most honest expression of who you are. Against the odds…

 

Some questions to consider as you remember your always present but deeply buried integrity…please share in the comments..

Is knowing your Self important to you?

I know my life is about integrity…I love and curse my teacher Bucky in equal measure. His stand for integrity was total. I long at times to just stop…and break my own vows. And sometimes I do.

What are your inner truths? What do you believe in..or stand for…that you will and do pay a high price for?

And finally, how committed are you to knowing your true self…to doing the inner work, the self inquiry, the listening, the silence…the writing…to really know thy self?

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The answer is always available. Always.

Monday, March 12th, 2012

Have a really confusing question that you want an answer to?

Or a problem that needs solving?

A decision that needs making?

What to do??…easy as…go to the source of all creation…the field…the infinite everything…

Here is how.

Grab a pen and paper, preferably your favourite journal. Take a seat, make sure your feet are on the ground. Ideally have few distractions. Take a few deep breaths, being mindful of the air going all the way down to your belly, and all the way out into the Universe.

Good…get centred…bring your focus to your gut, just below your belly button. Allow your mind to settle. Bring your breathing to this point as well.

If you like, say a little prayer…something like…

“Guide me to be present to infinite wisdom, to hear the voice of Universe, my soul’s deepest knowing. May I have the courage to trust the truth of wisdom and to take action from this place.”

Breath out.

Now write your questions…or your problem..or your choice…just write it as it is present for you…. as a question.

Then, write the answer. Don’t think about the answer, don’t judge the answer. Just write it. Write the words that arrive as they arrive. Unedited…they may not even be in English. They may be gibberish…keep writing…not thinking….write for as long as there are words to be written.

Maybe then you need to ask another question…so write that down…and then write the answer.

Repeat…until there is silence. Peace will be present. Spaciousness.

Take another few deep breaths, then read what you have asked and answered. Only now  are you permitted to judge, if you must. (Not advisable!). Now you can say this is impossible/stupid/ridiculous…if you really must. Again, not advisable. Your arguments for why it cannot be done are the same arguments that have prevented you from expressing your deepest truth until this moment. Do you really want to continue to do the same..?..for how many more years…? How much longer are you going to resist doing what you know is true…to keep playing small?

A few pointers….if you are really centred, and in a place of infinite trust, then you will access the voice of all knowing. If you move out of centre, if your emotions go up, if your heart starts to race, or you begin to get agitated, then you have shifted to the less wise aspect of self. The part of self that wants its own way, or to sabotage, or make you live more of the same.

The voice of wisdom is calm, infinite, quiet, peaceful, still.
If in doubt, go to a mirror, and look yourself in the eyes, ask the same questions and allow the answer to come…trust that you will know when you are lying to yourself. You will flinch, or your body will be ever so slightly uncomfortable. Or deeply uncomfortable.

The answer is always available. Always. It is only that part of you that is terrified of the truth of the answer that prevents you from really seeing/hearing the answer.

The question is not what is the answer, but are you ready and willing to hear it. Most of us are not…and if we are, we are not willing to act on it.

At least if you have it written down, you can only learn from not doing what your heart and soul knows it is tasked to do. And you can keep not doing, until you start doing.

This invites the magic into your life….

Change can come at the speed of light. You hold the reigns. How fast do you want to move/change? This is a powerful question. Most of us are only up for comfortable change, slow, non disruptive.

News flash..in our current period of massive systemic change, deny or ignore or argue with change and you will be left behind.

Go for speed of light…

Give this a go…and then…share the magic….inspire others…

Happy light speed travel…

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Personal Power

Monday, March 5th, 2012

This is about ‘you’.

Not the ‘you’ you are. But the ‘you’ you want to be.

The all-powerful you. The all-knowing you.

The you who you know deep down you could be.

The you at your most dynamic. The you with foresight, with authority, courage, integrity, dignity, heart.

Easy words to type. Much harder ones to live up to.

You may already have some of these qualities, at least some of the time. You may also be brilliant at what you do. You may be rich, successful, respected. But whoever you are today – you can be much, much more.

Because, like all humans, you have the potential to be.

I know that ‘you’.  I have come to know him or her over 25 years of intense training, exploring and innovating in the realm of personal development. I take a systemic approach and use big picture thinking that stretches from the cellular to the universal.  In simple terms, I empower my clients and students to cut through the white noise, the BS, so ‘you’ shine brilliantly and enduringly. I look forward to doing the same with you.

I only work with a very small and limited number of extraordinary leaders and entrepreneurs from around the world for a minimum of 12 months and often for years. This allows me to maintain a clear intimate focus, and helps my clients receive my best coaching and mentoring. At times, I also work with their leadership team. And through my global partnership in The Constellation, we work with institutions that seek to address the future with true vision.

The journey to fully -realized personal power may not be an easy one. But it doesn’t have to be a lonely one. I will be there with you, every step of the way.  My initial role is to help you to identify and recognize your other ‘you’. Then, through a combination of learning, reflection, feedback and refinement work with you to embrace your authentic core, to become that real ‘you’.

To achieve meaningful change requires commitment from you – commitment that I will match.  I will also bring rigour, truth, respect, compassion and leadership to this quest.

It will require great efforts. But it will also bring great rewards. Together we’ll align your integrity; develop your listening, emotional, physical and spiritual intelligence; encourage advanced communication; increase your ability to read the most subtle signals from people, from systems, and from the world; expand your perspective beyond what you saw as possible; improve your health and vitality; increase your self-belief and your self-awareness; remove constraints; learn new
skills and equip you with new tools.

I have already done the same for many others; clients who will vouch for my expertise in these areas, should you decide to take the next step.

If you believe you are ready to discover who ‘you’ really are, take that step.

I look forward to hearing from you….

And please comment on this piece. I am not normally one to do heavy promo stuff in this blog. This is an exception. I worked for several months on this, crafted in the main by a wonderful professional word smith, Tim Hall. With input from a few others, Amir, Michael, Laurent.

I was once told that when we hide ourselves and our gift from the world, we withhold the possibility of supporting other people in their own journey to the good the true and the beautiful.

My work is my gift…what is yours…would love to hear..

PS. The photo is my daughter, taken about 7 years ago.

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Why do we find integrity so hard?

Wednesday, February 29th, 2012

R.Buckminster Fuller

Today a client asked me…what is the opposite or dark side of diversity? The place where it is acceptable to malign a person for their colour, or sex, or religion, or..?  He was asking because in his world he has been observing the dark side of humanity manifest under the aegis of the continuing global financial crisis. People finding it acceptable to get away with seriously bad behaviour towards other human beings, given our current circumstances. In organisations where the sky is falling because the model has already changed but people are denying it, the ground is treacherous. Toxic undercurrents are a sure diagnosis for immanent collapse.

This week in Australian politics we have been especially privy to the dark side of humanity. Deception, extreme narcissism, covert agenda’s based on power, greed and hubris. More toxic undercurrents…more denial…more deception…immanent collapse.

In my own life I have recently allowed myself to fall under the spell of another’s deception. I know within this is a rich seed that bears a gift. For now, I am a little bruised. How easily seduced I am, still, by some bright shiny object or promise.

I found myself wondering what the threads are from this week in my world…deception, treachery, hubris…and in my contemplation I came back to my life’s work.

I think of my hero and guide, Bucky Fuller. His message always rested on the stone of integrity. Integrity is the Essence. It is the song, the one song, the Universe, I have adopted as my own stand in life. In so doing, it asks much of me, often challenges me to the soul of my existence. Yet it is also the key to freedom..the real kind…soul freedom.

Why do humans find integrity so hard?

Flipping through Chip Conley’s latest book, Emotional Equations, here is his equation for integrity.

Integrity = Authenticity x Invisibility x Reliability.

Authenticity is the merging of self awareness and courage. Self awareness is a life’s work. Few people take it up as a committed practice. Courage, well, courage is derived from ‘cour’ for heart. Courage takes heart, vulnerability, and action. It is not the same as bravado, which all bluster minus heart. Our world is full of bravado. We are enchanted by courage because it is so rare, especially from our leaders. We long for it…as we long to be courageous.

Invisibility is the act of being in integrity no matter who is watching, and especially when NO ONE is watching. It is grounded in humility. It holds service to others as its source code. Our personal agenda is secondary. Again, rare…precious…extraordinary when you encounter it.

Reliability means that you are your word. What you say is what you do is who you are. You keep your promises to yourself, and to others.

This is the work of integrity. Every aspect is required. It is great big huge work. It is the most important work on the planet.

Or so I think and feel…

But I would love to hear what you think…? Do our schools, institutions, governments consider integrity as important enough? Do we invest in integrity like we invest in growth strategies or productivity? What needs to happen for this to be so?

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2011 Annual Review: Humility, Gratitude and WOW

Friday, February 3rd, 2012
WOW because sometimes there are just no words in the English language to explain the feeling of gob smacking awesomeness when a light that you have been working your arse off to find suddenly comes ON.
I have always found this process to be incredibly powerful. Each year I marvel at just how far I have come. Either I am moving fast on my interiors or I had a lot of catching up to do…or both. The opportunity to pause, gather, reflect, and vision is very nourishing at a soul level. You will see that this particular annual review is deeply personal and quite revealing.  As someone who works closely with people, I made a decision a long time ago to be sure that anyone I work with knows, without question, that I am very human, that I have my own insecurities, my own egoic fantasies and mythologies, and I am working as fast and hard as I can on my own journey to self mastery and personal power. One of my most favourite quotes is from the Course in Miracles, “In my vulnerability I become invulnerable.” Or…when I have nothing to hide…I am not able to be attacked.

This report is the equivalent of 7 pages of a word document. Not tooooo bad!!!

Make yourself a coffee or tea…., grab some chocolate (Lindt dark Chilli is the best!!)…and enjoy.

Click here to download and read And if you do find that you simply must respond, please do. In the comments below, or to me personally.
I would be grateful if you feel this would be something others would like to read to share it around.
In gratitude,
PS. While I have written a review of the year for many years now, the inspiration to write this as a PDF for download came from Jonathan Fields. His report was a wonderful read. I recommend you read that too.

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