Continuing the unfolding story following my dream funeral and fear funeral (read about how this started here) to live without fear and scarcity.
Day 3 Minus fear, April 20th
Well a little fear crept in. I must confess. And the awareness of just how much I think about money or the lack of it. Crazy thoughts like “I wonder how that retired rugby player makes his money?” Gruuuu…how silly is this? Just goes to show how my scarcity thinking has become like the air I breath. Definitely needs to go.
And to counter that, I get a beautiful email from one of my newsletter readers, Joan from Oregon, Reminding me that my writing inspires her and makes her giggle. Bless you Joan, I needed that.
Day 4 Minus Fear, April 21th
Doing really well. Fear levels low. Have not had to do much switching of thinking to non scarcity thoughts.
The practice of being grateful in the moment is requiring some work to embed. I usually scan my day before I sleep and go through what I am grateful for, but to do it on the spot, in the moment, to pause and really take it in, this is taking some work.
Feeling relaxed and calm.
A girlfriend invited me to dinner where we drank lovely french bubbles, and shared a beautiful meal. I am indeed blessed. How easy it is to forget.
Day 5 Minus Fear, April 22nd
Another good day. Not really aware of fear, many of the gripping thoughts have left.
Spent the day working like a crazy women on my strategy for change. Loving being creative. It also really reinforced my belief that I can do this, I can conquer the fear as well as come out the other side with my life a true expression of the fullest of me.
I was invited to participate in an interview on a blog. Lovely. Check it out here. Dr Amit Nagpal is doing great work. Very inspiring.
Day 6 Minus Fear, April 23nd
The mantra I am working to embed in my psyche is;
“I am so happy that so much money and resources come to me for simply doing what I love.”
I am also practicing being in the feeling of…”I have to pinch myself everyday in gratitude for the amazing life I have.”
Feeling very confident, certain, plus doing a lot of work to stimulate action. This is keeping my thoughts and feelings focused on the great vision I feel and hold.
That vision is about bringing integrity back to humanity. One human at a time. Or a hundred, or a thousand.
Day 7 Minus Fear, April 24th
Still staying relaxed and calm. Amazing. Actually feel very quietly confident.
On the weekend I shared with one of my clients the dream funeral ceremony I held for myself to start this process. (Inspired by Danielle Laporte in her great book, The Firestarter Sessions) She liked it so much she has asked a group of her girlfriends to come together for a weekend and go through the whole process, with me facilitating. Very cool. It is a powerful process. (Well here I am today, nearly a week into my post dream funeral, and I have had very little fear)
I also received a very encouraging email from a subscriber in Buenos Aires about how this series is inspiring them. Thank you…deep bow. They are working on a more integral, healthy life, so I do wish you the best of luck.
As part of the original intention of my blog, and all of my work, I have held my master teacher, Bucky Fuller as the model. Bucky took a really BOLD stand. His experiment did not allow any form of what we know as ‘marketing’.
Marketing is an interesting concept. On the one hand I know that my gifts need to get out in the world, and to not have this happen doesn’t support people in making the kinds of transformations I know they can make when they work with me. On the other hand, in our society, we have become masters at marketing through spin, seduction, spell casting…preying on the needy. One of my choices in my work was not to ever resort to the kind of seductive or spin marketing that is so common these days. You know what I mean, the long long long web page, all the bonus’s and special offers, all the scarcity based material…only available for the next 24 hours…this kind of manipulation.
Sure, it works….it really works. People buy. Of course they do. They buy because the marketer is appealing to their neediness (nothing wrong with being needy, although I would prefer not to be needy myself). However, the whole model is strongly rooted in our larger economic model of scarcity. If you don’t do this now, you will miss out. And while this is often true, if I don’t say yes to life I may miss out on life….the propagation of scarcity is a really serious disease in our world. I refuse to play this way. I hate it when it is played on me. Even more so when it is done so very well that its not until a few days or weeks later that I wake up and realise I have been had.
This then raises the question, and the tension, of how to get your gifts out to the world without resorting to the spin doctoring and spell casting. Anyone out there a master at this kind of marketing…integrous marketing? Wanna play with me?
Obviously my material needs to be super fabulous. This is a great place to start. And this is what I focus on. It also has to be wanted and needed…if its not wanted then no matter how good no one will buy, or read, or spread the word. Tricky thing is that many times we don’t know what we want until we have it…think ipad. So we do have to keep being innovative, but also take feedback really well and fast. And keep moving.
Bucky also refused to play competition…if someone else was out there doing what we was doing, he withdrew and went in a different direction.
Given that I am my product, I am pretty certain there is no one else doing what I do. Not exactly. How to distinguish that has always been tricky for me. Getting clearer, but it has been one of my major stumbling blocks. Again, if this is your expertise, I am all ears…let me know.
So here I am, knowing I have something really great to offer the world, and refusing to go down the spin and spell casting route. I want people to make a fully informed, conscious decision, without any pressure of any kind. I want them to be grown up in their investment, to consider it… (I love love love the word consider…it actually means ‘examine the stars’...)
The ‘marketing’ strategy I am working on is built around speaking (let me know if you want me to speak, either live or by teleseminar, free or paid), interviewing artisans of integrity and positive deviants…putting other great people in the spotlight as well as providing a service to others…(let me know if you want to be interviewed because you believe you fit either or both categories), my blog writing….so do please spread the word, and also through social media, where my goal is connection, not just fans. I really like to meet people. I love it when you write. I love hearing your stories. I love getting to know you. I am so so so very grateful that you do read…
I am excited…I am being creative, seizing the day, totally clear about what is not just possible, but a done deal..in lag. Fear…what is fear…?? It seems to have left the building.
Would love to hear your thoughts..
