Archive for April, 2011

Embodying The Archetype of the Whole – The task of the new leader/social entrepreneur

Sunday, April 10th, 2011

 

There is a wonderful story that Bucky Fuller tells about a child on a beach. The child has a stick and draws a triangle in the sand.

“Look Bucky, I have drawn a triangle!” says the child with great excitement.
“Wonderful,” says Bucky, “But you have not drawn one triangle you have drawn four.”
“How did I draw four?” asks the child, perplexed.
“You drew the triangle you see, the triangle that covers the rest of the earth, and the triangle on the concave and convex.”
“But Bucky, I only wanted to draw one triangle.”
“I know, but you have drawn four and you need to be responsible for all four.”
(If you want a deeper understanding of this, please email me.)

In the last 40 or so years the world has shifted from a world of parts, to a world of whole. Whole foods, whole earth, global, Gaia. We no longer have the luxury of living in isolation, separate from strangers in other countries. Our news is instant, our ability to travel the world is quick and accessible, our actions and thoughts affect everyone. The world of divide to conquer, and to keep conquered keep divided, is over. Those who think it is not are living in lag. Wikileaks and twitter amongst other technologies ensures that. We cannot look at our body as a liver and heart and knee cap, we must look at the whole, and not just the whole body, but our body in relationship to the environment at the physical, emotional, mental levels. Seeing a ‘specialist’ for a certain medical condition keeps us stuck in the world of parts. It is a very dysfunctional model of health.

Our current world is attuned to being ‘specialists’. Models of success ask us to find our niche. “If you don’t have your niche you will not make your millions.” This may be true in our current world, but it is also a formula that invites tunnel vision. And it is not what is needed to move forward for the success of all of humanity, if that remotely interests you, because in order to operate in the world of the whole, we need to be able to see and be responsible for the whole. We need to be specialists at being generalists, at seeing/feeling/intuiting the whole first and foremost. (I have resisted the niche model all of my life, at my own cost of those said millions, not because I am a hero, or noble, but because it simply went against the very fibre of my being, and contradicted the very DNA of my existence.)

The archetype of the whole is now present on earth and demands from us a different approach. For positive deviants and thought leaders who are really invested in being the harbingers of transformational change that does support the whole of humanity, the archetypal energy of the whole demands a higher resonance of existence. We need to be able to function at a very high level of existence. We need to be whole. The requirement to pull all the broken scattered parts of ourselves together is non negotiable. Doing a deeeeep dive on our shadow on an ongoing basis is non negotiable. And if you work in groups and teams, then it is also non negotiable to have the whole team be resonant and vibrating on a very high frequency, as a WHOLE.

The frequency of the whole also requires a different set of physical, spiritual, emotional, mental and Universal laws. ‘All is one’ becomes an embodied law. Our relationship to time and space at the level of whole changes. When we are, as individuals or as the team, vibrating in collective whole resonance, time and space disappear into insignificance. This is the world of the synchronistic, miraculous, aligned response, where feedback is instant.

The world of setting goals no longer works. Nor is it relevant. The only goal, if we call it that, is to stay in the dynamic of whole. To have our inner and outer expression be in full integrity. To have our relationship to our team/tribe be in full integrity. To have our relationship to our systems and structures be in full integrity.

A word of caution. If you seriously choose this path then by the very nature of the choice, more will be asked of you than has ever been before. You will not  be able to get away with naught of your silly small games, of anything less than self vigilance to shadow at the individual and team level. And you must commit to the daily, year in, year out, until you draw your last breath in this realm of existence, practice in your wholeness.

If you are not up for this level of personal and global commitment, then do something easy, like learning to blow up the world.
As I started with Bucky, I will conclude with Bucky.

“Integrity is the essence. Commit yourself to integrity. That is all.”

(Integrity Latin:  untouched, hence, undivided, whole, equivalent to in- in-3  + -teg-  (combining form of tag-,  base of tangere  to touch) + -er  adj. suffix)

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Cosmic jokes, hot sex, relationships, money…and sufficiency

Thursday, April 7th, 2011

 

I feel quite sure that the God’s are laughing right now. There is a cosmic joke and I am at the centre of it. Thankfully I have some levity around the subject as well, no matter how painful the journey to get to this point.

I am maintained that the four really sticky lessons for every human is money, sex, health and relationships. All of us have the one or two trouble areas from these four, and one or two that we are pretty clean about. Most people I have met have one of these that is a real biggie…the one aspect that seems to be a constant place of learning through a lifetime. Two of these we have agreed by silent consent are open to being discussed, and the other two are like some dirty secret that no one must talk about in public. Ever. Or if they do, only if they are a stand up comedian or they wrap it in humor.

My health is outrageously good, through a combination of fabulous gene’s (thank you mum and dad) and placing health as my number one value. It was not always like this,  and for the first part of my life my health was the area that I struggled with. Borderline anorexic, I lived for 17 years with a constant inner story about my body and my weight. Not a minute of a hour of my waking day would go by when I would not think about food, my body, my weight, what I would eat, what I would not eat. It was exhausting. It was also an extremely repetitive, boring, narcissistic inner conversation. One day I had had enough, and I simply refused to participate in this inner conversation ever again. (It was that simple, and it wasn’t, the work I did on the inside to get myself to that place was very significant and happened over years with great commitment). Although there are days where I have vague thoughts of being a few kilo’s lighter, or running faster, I really am at a place where I have sufficiency in my fitness, my health, my weight.

Sex, well we will save that for another story. I have spent years in abstinence, not because I don’t like sex, I just really am not interested in average sex and I am not that interested in a numbers game to get great, masterful, mind blowing sex. I do however think we need to talk about sex a lot more, and talk about becoming masters in being sexual partners. I would definitely like to see schools for learning how to pleasure others as a normal part of life. Really great sex is as much about mastery as any other skill in life, and I seriously don’t think many people view it that way. I do get to express my creativity by having supra sex, as Barbara Marx Hubbard calls it. (the massive high you get when you create incredible things with others..) As well, my sport is a great physical outlet. So with sex I feel I have sufficiency, even though most people may be inclined to say I am in lack. Give me excellence or naught.

Relationships, well I have amazing, great relationships with incredible people around the world. I love my friends, and the richness they bring to my life. An intimate partner, this has eluded me. For the most part, it has not been an issue. I am not someone who feels less than for being single. Maybe because I have an incredible relationship with my 20 year old daughter. Also because I get so much value from the relationships I have. I have a very different view on long term relationships than most people. (See my recent post on the Future of Marriage.) I feel a sufficiency around my relationships. Well nourished, in deep gratitude to my friends and family. Enoughness.

So that leaves the last one…money. This is my biggie. This is the one aspect of my life that rattles my bones. Well, it hasn’t always…while I was obsessing about my weight and body image I didn’t have time to think much about my relationship with money. (It just goes to show that the stories that rule our lives can be so massively noisy that nothing else can penetrate, including common sense.)

The cosmic joke…well just before I dropped the body issue story, I began to explore the money story. This was in my mid 20’s. There was something about this subject of money that really bamboozled me, and I am not comfortable with feeling like I do not understand something. So the search to understand money and my relationship to money began 25 years ago, and has continued to this day. Now however, it has ramped up a gizzillion notches. I have made a personal commitment to create full healing around my relationship to money, to value exchange, to the expression of my value in the world, to being acknowledged in multiple forms including money for that expression. I am not talking about superficial healing…I am talking about a deep ‘knowing’ type healing. For I have intuitively known for a very long time that my relationship to money is clouded because I get that our current system is broken, and I have been seeking/longing/feeling towards an alternate and it is this that has eluded me. I have also made a commitment to supporting as many other people in the world heal their own money/value illusions. And to support people in really understanding the very system we live in, and how to engage in a parallel system that allows true recognition of value where value is expressed, and not some superficial recognition that says the person with the most stuff, or fame, or is able to manipulate and spell cast better than anyone else is the one that gets the biggest goodie bag, while a teacher in whom we trust the education of our child, gets scraps. Our current system is a dud. There is no tweaking that will fix it. Its very core DNA is corrupt, and has been from its original design. The time is now for a new value expression that takes into account and honours all players, all contributors, past, present and future.

So..the cosmic joke is that my journey as a single parent, and with a ‘story’ going on and on in my head for the last 20 years about not enough..never enough…and my struggle with my relationship with money taking me to a very precarious place where I have way too much debt and have not valued myself enough to ask for what I am really worth…this has all lead me to a deep and getting deeper dive into really understanding our current system, and really building a bridge to a healthy future system, and really being able to support others in the same journey…and in the process will heal me, and others…and that now looking back over this last 25 years, I see the road has been a perfectly designed launch pad, fitted with trials, suffering and all the usual difficulties that bring us, humbled, to our knee’s, open and willing to explore the very core of our brokenness. As to the nauseating story of not enough, I am seriously over that. Over, over, over…broken record, ruled my life for way too long over… The exploration now is sufficiency, no matter what my earning or my bank account or my debt situation is.

Someone once said, with great wisdom, we teach what we most need to learn. Touche.

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